Well i am now well on the way with this online dating malarky- it is the beginning of a new week and on reflection since i began this 'experience' this has been a total change to my usual monday to friday!
For starters my phone battery now lasts me less than the whole day, i usually end up charging it again in the evening due to the handy little dating app you can get. This isn't too bad as it acts like an IM and you get the messages instantly. Only gets a little irritating when your phone goes off ALL THE TIME. This may sound like i am 'bigging myself up' but honestly- if you could see some of the men, some of the messages and some of the 'suggestions' i have been forwarded then you would realise this is nothing to be proud of! So that's been a bit of a job, constantly having to charge my phone. It's almost as bad as my obsession to constantly check my inbox for messages. It's made me feel like a teenager again on MSN waiting for a new chat!
So anyway- these messages. Oh my days. There are some that are genuinely adorable and would make your heart melt- if only you were attracted to the face that is attached to the message, and weren't put off by the face of a criminal.
This makes me feel actually awful for not replying but i just can't be bothered to waste my time and theirs as we all know what we've signed up for. It's on the profile! If you don't tick all the boxes from the checklist what is the point? It's like, i have had messages from men that are 5'4- seriously?! I am 5'2 so what on earth would we look like together. I have also had messages from men that are 52, divorced with 5 children- WHY are these men messaging 21 year olds?!
These are the small little details you have to consider on these profiles and you quickly realise how high your standards actually are- or if you have no standards at all! This has once again made me think about these websites and really- it isn't about getting to know the personality at first, everyone is judged by their pictures so it is no different to everyday life. You have to be physically attracted to the other person don't you?! Either that or i'm extremely shallow and a really bad person. :-(
More types of men i have had messages from include, the usual perverts expected on these websites twice my dad's age asking for a date, the younger 'boys' after an older woman- I'm nearly 22 so how on earth do i constitute as an older woman for god's sake?! And just now as i am writing this i have received a message stating the following,
'hey am stripper got 10 an half inches inbox me for proof''- It's frightening.
Guys that put 'hehe' in messages freak me out and i definitely won't reply to being called 'munchkin'- when was this ever okay to call a stranger?! I despise men messaging twice if not three times when you don't reply- Please take the hint that as i haven't messaged back, you are probably not the man of my dreams.
The worst possible action on this website is being able to see people who have viewed your profile- this also means they can see that YOU have viewed THEM and you instantly become a target for messages. Not so bad if you fancy the look of the european dreamy poet, but definitely the scariest thing on the planet when you accidentally view a giant balding slob who thinks he's onto a winner, wanting you to get your kit off. Not good.
I was actually surprised at the amount of women- yes women, messaging me telling me i could be a model! Very flattering but also very very seedy -And an absolute lie. Me modelling?! What a joke, but i guess once again it is this type of flattery that keeps you hooked on these websites. Everyone loves a compliment!
It's also extremely weird seeing people you recognise or know on the website! You get the awkward feeling of, 'ohmygod what if they tell everyone i am on a dating site?!' But then you also have to remember that they are too ;) so is it actually full of weirdos or people genuinely hoping to find a little bit of romance?!
I'm not sure how long i will be blogging this for, hopefully a little longer than 2 weeks if i can put up with it- not too sure how far to go with it either- should i meet up with these men? Go on dates?! We shall see :-) Maybe i will find the man i'll end up marrying and end up falling in love, this is, after all, the aim of the game. I'm pretty open minded that i could fall in love anywhere, anytime with anyone so maybe it could happen on this website- who knows!
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